Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

Frank every last word you wrote is ringing in my ears! You expressed in your words exactly how I am feeling right now! I thank you for that Frank!

"She has an OM who is basically a loser and uses her. She thinks so little of our marriage, and SHE was an energy drain on ME when I was hurting, and not any kind of help to me at all. I have forgiven myself and her for each of our roles in this. And I'm focusing on GAL and healing myself for ALL the past hurts, and the new ones she is inflicting on me."

This one quote from you Frank really stuck in my head. We have to foregive and move on. She is making choices that she will have to live with.

Personally my W is having a large dose of reality today in that I have emmotional checked myself out from her world, and she has to deal with consequences of her actions. For example she said she has already looked at places to live. I said how are you planning to pay for it while you are full time student. She had no answer. I said we are barely mking ends meet since I moved back and started a new job, and that I don't have the money to support 2 households anymore, and I need to take care of myself and the kids!
She then started to bring up the past from over a year ago, and that her moving in was all me forcing her! I don't recall every smacking her over the head and dragging her into the house, and for over 2 months we paid for her place while she lived with me and the kids. She only stayed there 4 nites in the month of NOv and Dec.
OH I FORGOT I had her tied down in the house!

Anyways I need to move on. Today is the first day I don't feel that empty pit in my stomach!
I still hold hope that she will want to make our marriage work, but she will have to come to that conclusion on her own and convince me she is serious!