Quote: Our W's have temporarily handed in their pass cards to our emotional well being. They have no right to know if we are ok. If they are concerned about it enough to ask, then they need to be concerned enough about it to act.
I posted the other day that they have also WILLINGLY 'forfeited' their right to flirt, and occupy that special place in our hearts we reserve for that one very special person.
Quote: I do NOT need saving by my W, thank you very much. I LOVE my W. I would love to share all of my feelings with her, and if I choose to, and she asks in a sincere way, I will. A casual "how's it going" is not that sincere way and does not deserve the kind of emotional reaction you put into your answers Tim.
I think mine still feels like I do since it was part of our old pattern. So I am having a problem figuring out how to answer when I am 'detaching' and I don't talk to her or see her as much in the house. She will ask me with a concerned voice "Are you alright?" and I want to say "YEAH, I'm alright! Don't act like you care, it's none of your f*ing business".
Usually I say "I'm fine, I just have a lot of things on my mind."
It's all part of her old habits of thinking she has to 'fix' me even though the other day she said she was glad she wasn't 'married' to that any more.
So, I just don't know WHAT to say to her. Since she made it clear to me yesterday that she doesn't care what I think about her affair, her life, or anything else but she is willing to ask me for business advice, emotional support and other stuff she knows she can trust me for what do I do? I want to tell her to 'go ask OM!'. I just don't know. Long ago I never needed anyone to feel better. We got into this place where I needed her to feel at least 'ok'. Now I am working to not need anyone again, ever.
