PARob you are right! With my good friends I never have to worry about saying anything. We trust our friendship and we can work things out, no matte what. I miss that trust with my W and we are all wondering if we can work things out. I know the first step is demonstrte my friendship to her, and be the person I want to be!
Kim you are so right about "whats behind door #2" when you recouncil. I experienced that first hand. My W and I started to recouncil in Nov, and the OM would enter the picture several times and actually never left! That is why I am back to square one! It is so true that you work so hard to get back together, and once that happens you start dealing with all the other pain and emmotion that you put to the side while you were trying to get back together. This is where I faltered. I stopped DB/DR and fell back into my old habits, because I thought we were out of the woods and I could start to write my success story. That is why Grasshopper, and NY and many of you out there have helped so much in understanding detatchment and building yourself up!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
