Hi Tim, glad to see you are coping a little better. Just make sure that this detaching is for you and not for a reaction from W. Although even if it starts out as another tactic by you, you will soon discover things are a whole lot easier that way for you at least.
As for working on the R, which hopefully will come later can I just say that I am piecing together my R at the moment and it is no easy ride. You have a whole lot of other feelings and emotions to come to terms with and it is hard hard work so don't wish for this before you are ready.
I found with my H, he split up with OW and came back to me and 2 weeks later was seeing OW again. They go back and change their mind over and over but the A then fizzles out, but remember in it's own time. (That is what has happened with me and now I have to believe it as my H and OW had a 3yr affair behind my back and after he left he dropped the A bomb about 2-3 months later and I had no idea) so I am hoping it is true that they are finished and not going back to just being an affair, see that is just another thing I have to overcome whilst piecing this back together.
I hope it all works out for you Tim and you are now handling it the best way and it makes it easier to cope with once you get used to living the detached lifestyle, you should even come to enjoy it. I just wanted to let you know that it is no easy road piecing the M back together even if you are both willing, it takes sheer hard work and alot of tongue biting.......Kim
