[quoteSo, it's a fallacy to think that because the WAS leaving is what had made you 'sad", that the WAS returning is what will therefore make you "happy". Nuh, uh. What's really happened when the WAS returns, is that the person that made you "sad" is now living in your house again!
Thanx DonS, Sassy, and NY like usual. Your words really do help.
NY your quote echoed in my mind. I truly did experience the sadness when my W left, and then was on top of the world when she moved back in. The problem was I was on top of the world and she was not even half through her journey. I was soon becoming disappointment that she was not sharing in my true happiness, and I was living with the person that made me sad acting as if it was alright! This really made me realize that she needs to be as comfortable with our R and M as me, and until then I just have to put my efforts into myself.
Don said something that also made me think real hard. when i look in the mirror i am not happy with what I see. This truly has contributed to my sitch. In Oct before my W and I got back together I was starting to be happy with the person I saw in the mirror. I was taking control of my life and doing things for me and my kids. Obviously my W sensed it or saw it because she came back. It is time to go back and start the journey again. I want my marriage to work, and I will continue to post when my actions meet my words!
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
