If you actually do DB you may feel happiness again with your spouse!
Maybe, maybe not. More importantly, can Tim be 'happy' with who Tim is and who he wants to be and NOT depend on W or M/R for 'happiness'?
WAW talk about being happy, thinking other R w/ OP can make them 'happy'. When w/ OP, they might think they're happy but in reality they're probably miserable inside using the external 'happiness' to mask the internal pain, fear and guilt.
I need to proof to myself that I can stop my controlling behavior, and just let her go, and see if she will come back.
That's exactly what I've HAD to do these past 3 months. Today is WAW 46th birthday. I won't call her though b/c she doesn't want to interact with me in ANY way (D's and I did send a card though). Will WAW come back? I don't know, only God knows. I do know I have to now live my life as though she won't and work on being happy with myself.
Tim, you are no longer responsible for your W. She will live her own life regardless of what you say or do. I know how difficult it is for 'controllers' to want to 'fix' what's wrong with M, R and W. Trust me, take that energy and 'fix' the only thing you can - YOURSELF. Care to join me?
