Alot of what you said Curiosity has played through my mind. I should expand on what happened this summer between us. My W and I decided to move to another city in Feb to further my career. We bought a house, had an offer on our other house, and was in the midst of planning the move back to the city where we were both born and raised. This is when she decided to seperate and stay behind and not move. (Now I know it was because of the OM) Went through hell all summmer. The kids would spend 2 weeks with me and 2 weeks with her. (Actually was more like 3 with me 1 with her). Finally moved back at the end of Oct to be closer to the kids, start a new page of my life, and try to recouncil with my W. Which we did for 2 months! I thought about the lawyer and the big D, but I am not there. I need to proof to myself that I can stop my controlling behavior, and just let her go, and see if she will come back. This is very tough because I have experienced the pain of this once already, and seen the dramatic improvement in our kids once we got back together. That is why I don't want to let go and I keep pushing. I just have to let go and go back to the state of mind I had before I moved back, and just worry about myself and the kids. I still want this to work.
Tim
my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1
