Perhaps you should see it as a good thing that your W is out of the house. What she clearly needs is space. You cannot force her to give up the OM if she doesn't want to.
I think you also need some space to clear your head and get out of the constant back and forth you and your W were having. Yes it is good for your children to have your W home, but it was not good for either of you two.
Take some deep breaths. Do something to make yourself happy. Your W may come home again yet. Remember, it ain't over 'till it's over.
