Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

For those out there who wonder if giving your wife the ultimatium to leave is the answer just read my sitch from top to bottom.

My wife left tonite. She told me she is not coming home tonite. Is this permanent? Could be? I this what i wanted? Absolutely not!

A few days ago I told her to choose between me and the other man. If she choose the OM I told her to pack up and get out! I acted on emmotion, and not thinking about what I really wanted. I thought I was at the "LAST" Last Resort mentioned in DR. I wasn' t even close, but my actions and words said otherwise! Now she is gone, and walked away from me, and her 2 and 4 yr old!
This is not what I wanted so anyone reading this please learn from me!
Also I did another thing tonite I regret. My daughter who is 4 went through our S this summer, and is so much better since my W and I got back together. So tonite when my leaves tells my daughter she is not coming home but will see her tomorrow. My W leaves, but at bedtime starts crying for Mommy, and wants Mommy to come home to kiss her good nite, and does not want her to leave, and then wants to talk to Mommy. So the manipulative controlling man I am who wants my W to feel guilty picks up the phone and calls my W. Good for my daughter because she calms down, but lays it on thick to her Mommy about missing her. Not the best thing to do if you are DB and don't want your wife to feel pressure. My W then told me on the phone that I lack parenting skills, and she can't believe I had her call! And my W is right!
I said early I need to re-group and be strong. I still want my marriage to work. This just proves that if you don't DB what can happen, and if you actually do DB you may feel happiness again with your spouse!