Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

Hopefully you've been at this long enough to have changed some of your traits which led to this situation and proven to your wife that you will always love and support her. However, there comes a time when supporting her to destroy you and the family becomes counter-productive.

I know my post was hard and probably made you angry. I hope the anger came because you realised the grains of truth in what I said.

I'm not telling you to react emotionally and angrily towards her. Just set simple boundaries to protect yourself and the kids from her destructiveness and enforce them without apologising.

I appreciate everyones post. Sometimes I need some reality also.
Anyone who has read my sitch knows the struggles I have had. My question is what are the boundaries. I was very clear I want her out if she wants to stay with the OM. So now what? I want to get back to DB. So what are my new bounadries. I have thoughts already but I would like input from others!