Tim, I'm sorry if I was too harsh with my previous post. You don't need anybody to stand up for you but yourself.
I'm just trying to say that I don't think being so accomodating, setting boundaries and then apologizing for them repeatedly, and trying to get your wife to say ILY at the end of phone conversations is the way to go about winning her back.
Hopefully you've been at this long enough to have changed some of your traits which led to this situation and proven to your wife that you will always love and support her. However, there comes a time when supporting her to destroy you and the family becomes counter-productive.
I know my post was hard and probably made you angry. I hope the anger came because you realised the grains of truth in what I said.
I'm not telling you to react emotionally and angrily towards her. Just set simple boundaries to protect yourself and the kids from her destructiveness and enforce them without apologising.
