Hit the wall now what......New thread

[FinallyUnderstands]

TIM:

I had an event a couple of weeks ago that I did not post about. Actually didn't tell too many CLOSE friends about.

I dropped off the kids with W after a regular visit night. As I got in my car and got ready to leave I noticed a car coming up behind me. Ok, I wait for them to pass...This car slowly drove past me and then proceeded slowly around the corner and then stopped where as I could see the tail lights...HELL NO! I waited in front of the house as this CAR went around the corner. Then the lights disappeared.

I whipped the car around and went around the block the other way. As I got to the corner I saw this CAR coming up the street. I wheeled my Jeep in front of him and as I ALMOST made contact with this car I gave the driver a dirty look (I KNOW WHO YOU ARE!!!) I drove away...

NOW, I really wanted to confront this person as my adrenaline was very high and I just had to see it for myself. But I didn't.....

Two Reasons...

1. My kids...
2. My Wife...

There were only two things that were going to happen If I went in ther guns blazing...

1. I was going the Hospital..
2. I was going to Jail....

Now, As I stood on my dads porch on the other side of town...I realized something...

There was nothing I could do about it. SHe is going to do it regardless of what I wanted. Therefore why bother jepodizing my job, my kids and the amount of pressure that I would have put on my W at that moment. Do I think that she wanted my to stand up for her? Maybe. But My emotions were so so high that night that It was better for me to calm down and let it go....

The problem with my marriage is not with him it's with my W. SHe made the choice and I'm letting her be responsible for that choice.

After that night I have not seen any indications that an A is still in the bucket. Does that mean that it's not happening. NO. Do I care? NOPE. Why? Because I can't control her and the things that she does...

Does that mean that what I did scared him off..Probably not. But my presence is now known...Do I recommend confronting him.....NO!

YOU CAN DO THIS!!!! DIG IN AND WAIT IT OUT>>>PAITENCE!

THink about this. Do a another 180 and let it go for a week and she what she does/says....

It will be hard but if you want your W (DUH) try it.