Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

Hi TMU Whilst I agree with what others have said I do want to say that I totally understand your need to get things off your chest. Other than your 4 year old I bet you feel a bit better about getting that out into the open.

I did feel better to get things off my chest! In a way I was relieved!

UPDATE

Well I got lucky! (Not like that!)
Do not recommend the path I took but I got a small positive step forward!
How my saga continues is this:
My W had individual therapy session today at noon. I went home for lunch. She should have gone back to school but came home after her session. She walked in and said sorry right away. I said sorry for my episode this morning. She said it was completely understandable....Long story short she told me when my daughter was crying this morning, and I told her to go live with the OM she realized how wrong she was, and she was making a mistake. She told me she wants to be with me, and that she knows the OM is completely wrong for her, and is totally manipulating her. She also said the OM is like an addicition to her (words from the therapist) and that she wants to solve all his problems! She apologized again, and we hugged. She looks horrible and is defintely depressed. She then went to take a nap and I went to work.
I still am not of the woods yet and we have alot of work to do so I really have to listen to my own advice, and be patient.
Please any one reading this please read my complete sitch, and see that I did some things that were wrong, and acted out of emmotion. Just because I got a positive step forward from it does not make it right! In my sitch I felt I needed to give her the choice of me or the OM, and it did it out of emmotion not after careful deliberation.
The only thing that maybe considered in my sitch is that I have been calm and almost to loving and giving toward my W when she has been dealing with the OM. This was a complete 180 in regards to my emmotional out burst, and being angry. n the DR book I know there was a scenario described where am did a similar thing and it worked for him. I am not saying this is the way to handle any sitch yet I got ONE positive result from it!