Thanx Kim,
I really do need to listen to my own advice! My kids are so important to me and they need a strong Dad! I am not going to act as if, I am jsut going to work going forward and be stronger. My W keeps repeating herself and I just support it! Last nite was the closes I came to packing her suitcase and leaving it at the door! I know that will not solve anything but I voiced myself stongly to her. I know she will be cold and distant when I come home and I just have to focus on the kids, and making myself stronger. Life will go on, and I have been through alot (and so has everyone who has supported me on-line) and I have made it this far. I invested alot of energy into our relationship and I still will but I am going to try and take some for myself! Sounds easy!
I have a question that I have been thinking about.
Her Dad is in China and doesn't know what is going on. Do I send him an e-mail? He really wants us to be together and treats me like a son!
Also my therapist mentioned my W needs someone she respects to tell her to "wake up" she mentioned our doctor. Do I initiate something? I just saw him and he knows the sitch and wants us to be back together?
Yes this is controlling and goes against DB 180, yet I want to look at all options before I make any more mistakes!
I forgot to add that our therapist thinks my wife is defintely depressed and needs help for that. Since she has been on Paxil for a few years she feels it may be time to change her meds. This is why the doctor got brought up! Eliminate the chance of a chemical in balance and see if that helps!

Last edited by Tim297181; 01/18/06 11:23 PM.
Tim my story http://www.divorcebusting.com/ubbthreads/showflat.php?Cat=&Number=1049617&page=&view=&sb=5&o=&fpart=1&vc=1