She did not go to end things, instead she came home to tell me how much she loves him! I asked her why she said she was going to end things and didn't? She said "I did not say that I said this has to end (meaning the sitch") I hate to say it but I am devastated!
Oh, Tim. I so understand your feelings today. This is very close to what happened to me in December. My WAH had a fight with o.w., and broken it off. I thought he was coming back. A few days later, he called me to say he was "going to talk to her". The next day, when I spoke to him, I got the same thing you are hearing, that he loves her, etc. He told me he was devestated when he'd tried to end it with her. Tim, there is nothing you can do but to let her go figure this out. I know that is what everyone else will tell you, too. Sorry to come off like a repeat of everyone else, but it IS the truth. I spent days hitting bottom after this happened to me, but I realized H. didn't care, so I'd better start caring about myself. You have to do the same thing, plus you have the children to take care of. They really need you right now, as your wife has plenty of other things on her mind. Please stay strong. Keep posting. I'm so sorry for all you're going through right now.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
