Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

NY we already have talked about seeing the same therapist seperately, and she was not to warm to it! When we did attend together she felt "ganged" up on. The reason for that was she was down playing the seriousness of the OM drinking and gambling problems, and was not telling the therapist the truth in how she was reacting to him! I would help fill in the balnks, and give the whole truth. This she said was like being ganged up on! She thinks I will be able to influence the therapist to my side and she won't get her views out. AS you can tell my W is a little insecure!
I decided I am going to see the therapist in about 30 min on my own, and I am not telling my W until I see what comes from her session (if she still goes)

The question is what am I going to do?
That is real tough. I believe I need to follow through with my comments last nite and let her find out how "great" the OM is! The 180 for me is to be friendly, and be caring and that is it! No more loving touches, or being helpful! She has already started that herself! The term used is going a little "dark" which is the opposite of how I have been around her! I also need to be stronger in front of my kids! I literally want to cry every time I think of what damage this has had on them already, and how this could all happen again!