Hit the wall now what......New thread

[Tim297181]

Let me ask you some questions, Tim.

If you were to keep it a "secret", and she found out, would she feel betrayed by you?

If you were to approach her and ask her first how she felt if you were to have IC with that same counselor, how do you think that may work?

Hope you don't mind my posting so much today... it's lousy out, raining, I'm stuck at the computer...

Yes she would say I betrayed her if she finds out on her own!
I know from past experience that telling her would give her a reason to stop! She did this with a previous therapist that we started to see seperately. Once she felt that the therapist was asking to tough questions for her she stopped going and changed to the therapist we are both seeing now!
I want to keep seeing the same therapist becasue she knows the entire sitch, and hopefully can help both of us through this with the both sides of the story.

I need to talk to someone! The message board is great but I think we all need someone to help us throught this tough time!

I have a real problem with what is going on with my W. The kids keep getting brough up as a reason for us to stay together! (only 2 and 4) They are such different children since we started to live together, and now since my W has not been around much, and the kids are picking up on our stress they are started to act like they did when we were seperated! Very clingy, and crying alot, asking for Mommy and Daddy all the time! Why is she oblivious to this! The OM she has even admitted would be a horrible father, and if I was seeing a similar person she would not want her around our kids! Has she lost her mind? Wake up!