Quote: In a way, it's a manner of "unconditional love", one can be fully present, available, supportive and loving - detaching just lets go of emotional triggers that stem from other underlying issues; "control" or other insecurities, for example.
Another day at work living on the board....
NYS, wow, once again you come through. I had read things like that but the way you put it makes so much sense. That is exactly what I did last night; I didn't let the same old triggers make me feel or do something. They just didn't affect me. It was really nice. I was still there for her but I DID NOT react to her going out or not calling. I had my own things I was doing. I was a little confused and thought I maybe did the wrong thing by talking for so long. I now realize that it was me understanding that now that I was detached, at least for the night, that it was safe to be back around her like that because I could not, would not, fall prey to the same pitfalls. Very liberating and I hope long-lasting. Thank you again.
