Anyone know how to get a 5 year old and 3 year old to DB?
Now you know this answer...children learn from those that set the example for them. Generally the parents. Sometimes it is the Grandparents.
Yes, you are definitely attached and you are showing it to her. What's it going to take to detach? What would help you detach.
Okay, she's going out with friends, have you always behaved in the past like this when she's made plans to go out without you? Perhaps this is why she waited...I know I am quite guilty of doing the exact same thing. Why, because if I had said anything prior, I would have had to live with IT up until the event happened, if I didn't back out of it because of guilt.
She said she's going out with friends, you take her at her word. Your head is spinning because you are letting it spin. She called you on the mood...has she done that in the past. That was actually quite brave of her to do that if I may say so. That's why I asked if you are normally like this when she wants to do something. You know history repeating history.
You managed to throw in the sitch to her...not very smooth my friend. Remember that it has nothing to do with you. But since you are obviously still attached, it will affect you.
Next time, bite your lip, tell her that you hope she has a great evening and leave it at that. Be sincere...that would leave her more to wonder than to leave the house angry with you for being controlling.
I understand you being jealous about the new friends...so have you made new friends yet? New interests, hobbies? I know you've heard this a thousand times, but one day you will detach...if not for you then for your children. They are going through enough hell right now...they need a strong father there for them. You know you can do this...
