I'll join you on your goal. It sounds like a good one. I wouldn't approach wife about her supposed depression yet. Kinda gets into the whole R thing (I'm worried about you yada yada). Plus, she might just be sad or plain tired. Since you're not a doctor, I wouldn't try to ascribe a condition to her. I think a lot of us DBers get caught up in labeling our spouses (to help in our quest for answers) but as far as I know, none of us are doctors so..... I'd wait it out a bit. Unless it seems dire and she really needs help functioning. There's a chapter about this in the divorce Remedy book.
