My wife's drinking may indeed be an issue but my C (only 2 sessions in so far) has been concentrating on easily discovered major issues I have, that I need to work on to be able to get through this thing for ME and my kids. I may have mis-posted. My C did not say my W's drinking was not a problem. She said it may very well be but that my behavior and attitude clouds my judgment on that. It really was just something that was put aside for the moment. I'm sure we'll revisit it very soon. Right now there are SO many issues making things difficult and this may be the major one, I don't know. We have the OM, our history, her needs not being met, my needs not being met, lack of communication, her MLC (maybe), my control issues... I can't really speak for my C in terms of her marginalizing this but once she heard a fair bit of my history with relationships and upbringing, she did, for now. If you read my sitch, somewhere in there you will see that I am really the only one who sees her drink to any extent. I can't say she hides it from other people because she does drink when she goes out, but she's home so much of the time that I would be the only one who sees much of it. Trust me, it is something that bothers me, and like you said, why would I marry someone who does something I can't really condone? Well, I guess I have never really used drinking or smoking, two things I don't do, as a filter for deciding who I dated. I can't answer why yet. It is something my C is wondering too.
