Hi TMU, Finally got over to read up on your sitch. You know you do seem to have a fairly good grip on the sitch, well as good as any of us can at this stage.
We all make mistakes along the way but it is truly a process we must go through. As we try different things that people suggest here you will find what starts working for you. It is not until you see improvement or feel you are coping on your own better that the sitch truly grows.
My H and I have been seperated for nearly 12 months so it is no easy road. Yes we are trying to reconcile but still live apart and trust me that is a whole new rollercoaster of it's own, so it's not easy.
I find it interesting that you said your W has always been a drinker pretty much since you met. Why do you think you married her if this is something you can't condone as you knew she had this problem before hand. I may have misunderstood what you said there so I will wait for your answer before i say too much more.
You have been showing great patience and I can see you do want to make it work with your W but try and stop with all the questions and just function for you and the kids and put your W's needs after you and the kids. Maybe if she see's your not hanging on every word or every action and you are actually just worrying about yourself and the kids you may just see a slight change. Worth a shot.
Stay strong and i will check in with you soon...Kim
