Yes Amy, she drinks most every night, at least at home. Always has since I met her. Sometimes more than other nights, and there are extended times when she does not (when we are at her parents, my parents, etc). In the beginning of my posting here I was focusing on her drinking as a potential source of many of these issues. Since then, I dispensed with the alcoholic angle because my therapist claimed that my issues (I don't drink, and despite my words to the contrary, I don't tolerate people who do very well) needed to be dealt with before confronting her with hers, if she has one. The main thing I was questioning in the beginning of my first thread was the fact that she used to try and hide how much she drinks, a tell-tale sign but when I relived some of my adult life with my C, we realized that almost everyone in my life, from girlfriends to friends did the same because of my intolerance for it. Again, she may VERY well have a drinking problem but I am not going to judge that yet.
As for the doctor/therapist questions, she is an anti-hypochondriac if you will. She does not go to the doctor for anything. She hates them, and therapists are just this side of side-show psychics to her. Talking to her about these things just results in immediate shut down on her part. Add to that the fact that she thinks everything I do is to "get her back." I am trying to figure out how to let her know I want her to get help for her depression without it being about me. I want her to be happy, with or without me. Our kids deserve it as well.
