Thanks Rob. If my new post gives you more insight, please post more. In response to what you said, I am just scared. I know fear is one of those debilitating emotions that we need to avoid when DBing but it is the strongest thing in me right now. Usually my fear is of losing her, but now it's fear for her in general. I am afraid that her depression is progressing beyond the point where she can manage it on her own and as previously mentioned, thats the only way she ever sees fit to handle such things. I feel like I am sitting totally still, afraid that any movement will set off the bomb that my wife has become. I know that is conflict avoidance. I also know that conflict is probably not what is needed here. I am going to try my best to NOT do what I always do and grill her about last night. I need to let her know that I am concerned for HER, not so much US and that I just want her to feel better. Like Tim, for different reasons, I just feel like this is a turning point where my emotional reaction is so different from the past two weeks. Maybe that's a sign that I need to pull back and NOT react because I am on unfamiliar territory. Any words of encouragement or discouragement are welcome. Oh, and feel free to elaborate on your sitch here anytime Rob, if it will help me understand my own better, or even if not, please do.