Cemar... Just to add, I think that marriage can make us more defensive ( and therefore less vulnerable) over time, which of course is the opposite of what is intended. But we buy into the fantasy that "all will be right" in a magical way. Unresolved issues from the past and inevitable new hurts get thrown in....and the distance keeps growing. Ignorance, lack of personal responsibility, immaturity, and denial cement the deal.
I am hoping that you will reach a breaking point that will facilitate change...until that time, I will listen to your venting, as long as it's not too inflammatory.
