You just gave us more insight as far as your W is concerned and your R with her. These little droplets of information just make me even that much more convinced.....you two need to see a professional.
If your W exhibits behaviors like this....even it it's just occasionally, there's a very high likelihood that much more is going on with her just under the surface. Don't you want to help her get past that? Surely you can see how a C can help with stuff like this.
