Cemar....maybe your intitiating style is to relaxing to her if she falls asleep?? I know there have been times I was really sleepy and my husband would initiate so sweetly like gentle touches all over my body. It just felt so good and comforting that I would fall asleep to. I wasn't rejecting him really. It just relaxed me to much. Now when, and this is most of the time, he initiates in a much more aggresive kind of way I wouldn't and couldn't fall alseep. Just a suggestion.