Sorry man, for everything. I am dreading the time when I have to make those decisions and when I have to REALLY give up caring even a little what she thinks about me. You sound like you've got a lot on your mind right now and are in an especially vulnerable place, prone to anger, etc. I pray you have the strength to get through this in a tough time. I really think you can. Do it for you, do it for the girls, don't do anything for your W but have an open heart should she decide to mend her ways. Until then, and as far as you're into this, that's all you owe her, if anything. Hang in there and we'll be thinking of you.