Thanks everyone. Sassy, I actually did turn the volume down on the phone in my room, but I forgot the other phone, so that was what kept waking me up. I could hear it in the kitchen. I knew he wasn’t going to stop calling and waking me up until I answered and so I decided to pick up, just so he’d stop. Honestly, I did not really want to talk to him! Imdi, I know what you mean; he questions my going to bed early as if that’s unheard of. I think it’s his own conscious at work because he knows what he’s doing and suspects I might not wait around forever by myself, either. This puts doubts in his head, as it should. It really was a lame thing to say, that he was worried he needed to come let puppy outside. He knows puppy is well tended to in my care. Shocked, good way to say it: I’m not frozen in time. I’ll admit that I was, but I am better. Al, thanks for posting, too. I’m trying to DB, and I guess it’s working. Spitfire, yes, you are right, most of his calls are when he’s either driving (alone) or at work. Obviously he isn’t going to call me in front of o.w. Thanks for saying I’m making progress detaching; I’m trying. I don’t look forward to his calls anymore. They are never so pleasant and encouraging that I feel we are making progress. I know that he has no right to ask what I’m doing, but he doesn’t have this figured out yet. I often think, if I were to treat him the way he treats me, he would be very upset about it.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
