Building a Mystery...

[spitfire23]

I don’t really know what to make of H’s behavior last night.

He's checking up on you Hope because you are detaching and going dark.

By the third one, you could hear the attitude in his voice because I wasn’t answering either phone.

He's not getting what he wants so he's getting pissed off.
When he was contacting you a lot, wasn't that also in the evenings while he was at work? No OW around to hear or know of those conversations. Do you see how this works? You back off and he comes around?

I’m just annoyed. If he doesn’t want me anymore, leave me alone so I can emotionally get over this.

It's not up to him. It's up to you. You control this situation. Don't react to him. Don't pick up the phone.
You can pull this off in your own sweet "Hope" way. You do not have to be a b@%&h. You can remain the person you are and stick to your beliefs and still send him a message.

You played into his game by answering the phone. Imagine what his reaction would have been had you not picked up at all. You are making progress with your detaching, Hope. You still have a ways to go. I know how hard this is and I'm not critcizing you. Just trying to point out what I see. If you had not picked up, I would not have put it past the man to have driven the 1 1/2 hours to your house after his work shift. If something like this happens again, remain mysterious. You are giving him too much info. He has no right to know what is going on in your life right now....he voluntarily checked out from that.

Turn your cell off at night. It will go directly to VM. If the house phone starts ringing, turn the volume down. You are torturing yourself listening to it ring as I don't think you are at the place to be entertained by it, yet.

I know this is all against the kind of person you are. Doing the opposite of what would be kind and considerate. Doing the opposite of what your H expects. I think they call that a 180 here in DBLand.

Hugs,

Spitfire