Thanks so much for your post. I really appreciate you writing that and it does help me feel better. I don’t know if it truly applies to how my H. feels, but I’d sure like to think so (less painful). One thing I want to keep in the forefront of my mind is to actually use control before I react to anything my H. says or does. I need to stop reacting based upon emotion. Next time we interact, I will practice this. there isn't room for us right now I definitely agree. H. is completely caught up in thinking only about himself. I just don't think they can fully understand the consequences of their actions and how their behaviors affect others I think my H. has a very good idea of how all of this is affecting me, but he’s so convinced of his unhappiness that he is doing everything he can to alter his situation so he isn’t unhappy anymore—even at my expense. I do think he is sorry for that, but he’s determined to not be unhappy anymore, so he’s going to step all over me on his way out of our relationship.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
