Quote: I think a lot of us probably feel that way about our WAH’s. Maybe there is even a part of them that realizes the man they were wouldn’t like who they’ve become now. To be fair, I really don’t think my H. is very proud of himself.
After talking with CJ last night about my talk with Dave and his behaviour I'm going to agree with you here. CJ has known him a few years more than me. She's in agreement that he's not happy, he knows he's not happy, he's lying to himself and he knows I can see straight through him. He's still blaming it all on me and still trying to make me hurt. She thinks the best thing I did for me was to tell him off. Because for 5yrs I held it all in...CA anyone? Never said that I was hurting, in pain, blah blah...and now I have FINALLY called him on his behaviour...whether he HEARD me or not, he heard me voice my displeasure and stand up for myself. She said that alone was what needed to be done for me. She saw my standing up for myself as Dave you do WTF you want you but I know what you're doing...now she said the key was to put those actions of mine to work. Kill em with kindness...treat him just like I do everyone else...so he cannot see there is a difference...he's my friend just like David, Dan, Alan...any of the folks that are next door. I did that the other day...when I pick up blondie everyday, I drop in to see if anyone wants coffee on the way back...did the same thing the other day...but it was him there and no one else. He answered politely. That's all I want.
Great line I heard last night on a Sex in the City Rerun...Someone was referring to baggage in a relationship and I believe it was Samantha that said it was more like the baggage carousel at JFK...
I'll visit FF posts later on when I can take a break.
Hugs to you babe, see you in a bit over a week!! Books and perfume put away for you!!
