I think a lot of us probably feel that way about our WAH’s. Maybe there is even a part of them that realizes the man they were wouldn’t like who they’ve become now. To be fair, I really don’t think my H. is very proud of himself.
I read more of finally_free’s posts. I don’t think my H. feels all that similar to him. Finally_free seems to want to be married if his wife’s changes are real; my H. is saying I’m not the one that needs to change; he is, and that he just doesn’t want to be married right now. Still, it’s interesting to read a WAH’s thoughts here. I definitely agree that his wife is DB’ing and doing very well with it. Maybe with some gentle encouragement from this board, her H. will give reconciliation a try. I wonder if she posts here, and who she is???
I haven’t heard from H. in a couple of days. I think he is off the next few; no idea if he’s planning to stop over. I don’t ask anymore, or call him. Doesn’t mean I’m not thinking about it though. I don’t know his thoughts, but I so wish that I knew if during quieter times he still thinks about the possibility of coming back.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
