It's sad, isn't it? For me, there are brief flashes of the H. I knew. Mostly though it's this new personality coming through that is not a very nice person to be around. Believe me, it's not an improvement.
The man I was married to would not like the guy my H. has turned into.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.