Print this out and keep it by your bed, or taped to a mirror in the bathroom:
I love my H. very much. But I am not in love with who he is right now. I don't know the person he is at the moment and if I met him for the first time today, I wouldn't even want to date him. He would not even make a good boyfriend right now...He may not be capable of ever coming back to our marriage and I have begun to accept this...
This is something to keep reminding yourself. It's all about acceptance.
(And don't apologize, GF. I didn't think you came across any other way than you intended to. I just wanted to clarify myself so I didn't sound like the "drag-him-into-court-to-get-him-back person; 'cause gawd knows that don't work ... at least it shouldn't be the motivation for going into court 'cause it can certainly backfire!)
