if you got involved in Ls and court and all that garbage, that doesn't mean that H isn't going to come back around. So don't let that worry you if you *must* go through mediation or courts or whatever.
I try to keep this in mind, P&DBing. I want to make it clear that if I ever decide to proceed with anything legally it will NOT be some kind of ploy to try to get H. running home because I've scared him by using some tactic. If I proceed, it's because I'm done; it will be for my benefit, not for his. That much I know. I don't play games and H. knows this.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
