NY S, H. has expressed a great deal of frustration over the fact that I just don't "get it"; that he isn't coming back and he doesn't know how he can explain it to me so that I understand. It would be a 180 if I calmly looked right at him and said I understand - you're not coming back.
He's told you that because you kept pursuing. If you stop pursuing, he won't get the message that 'you don't get it'... he'll get the message that you do. Hence, words aren't really needed, actions are. That's your 180 right there, ma'am.
