If CP is part of H’s problem, then I can only assume that if he and I were to file and D., he might then view his R. with o.w. as more trapping than he sees it right now. I’m filling that role in his life currently. If our marriage ends, then his R. with her will be what may feel suffocating. I could be wrong, but it seems like that would be how the pattern would go. Vinces, I don’t know what the chances are that my M. can be saved. I also don’t know if H. could stand to be alone; thus far, he hasn’t been at all. When he ended things with o.w. in Dec. for a short period of time, he semi-came back home (spent one night). He began talking about a R. with me again, but this lasted only a few days, then he went back to o.w. I actually wish he would spend some time “alone” (no o.w., and also not officially back with me) because I think this is what he really needs.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
