I too, have those thoughts about H... with OW, and possibly others. I don't like it, and when I get to thinking those things, just the thought of him touching me again literally repulses me.
But try to remember it's the depression, the lack of self-esteem, that makes our H's do these things. It has nothing to do with us. And tryto keep an open mind- that if H changes, if H works through his issues and comes back home, then perhaps your thoughts on the matter above will change too.
At least that's what I tell myself, on good days.
Glad to see you are doing okay. Looks like you beeng doing a lot of thinking, reading, and writing lately. I can see you growing stronger-
Hugs, PF
PetiteFlower
Quote: Follow Your Bliss
~Joseph Campbell