I did a lot of reading last night from the Men Who Can't Love book. NY S recommended this one. I think some of it applies to my H. I'd say a better title would be Can't Commit, because I do think my H. loves me
I can't speak for whoever came up with the title, but personally, I'd think that since real love has commitment as one of its legs, the title is appropriate.
The nature of our R. allowed him to be away from me so much (job related) which may have been one of the reasons we managed to last this long.
The "built in" space, huh?
I do wonder why he's this way, though; why a committed relationship makes him feel suffocated. And, why he's been with same o.w. this long (seems a little out of character for a commitmentphobic person).
Well, from what I know of your sitch, I think it's that he got married young, and just a few years ago realized his mortality, and that basically clicked a switch in him to go out and "see what's out there" in life.
His being with the OW for the past 6 or 7 months is not out of character for a CP. CPohbic relationships can go on for years, or not... it's not its length that's characteristic of a CPhobic relationship.
One thing that made me so sad: Hillary Swank and Chad Lowe separated.
It's all in how you perceive things, I see it as good news that makes me happy. Hillary Swank's available again! Think I have a chance?
