I did a lot of reading last night from the Men Who Can’t Love book. NY S recommended this one. I think some of it applies to my H. I’d say a better title would be Can’t Commit, because I do think my H. loves me (as much as he’s capable of). The nature of our R. allowed him to be away from me so much (job related) which may have been one of the reasons we managed to last this long. It’s a very interesting read. I’d say this is part of his problem; depression being the other. I wish he would look inward and want to change. If he doesn’t, I can’t see him ever being in as long a relationship as he’s had with me.
I do wonder why he’s this way, though; why a committed relationship makes him feel suffocated. And, why he’s been with same o.w. this long (seems a little out of character for a commitmentphobic person).
One thing that made me so sad: Hillary Swank and Chad Lowe separated. They’ve been married about as long as I have and I always thought they were such a strong couple. Hillary was interviewed at the Golden Globes; she said they are still trying to save the marriage. She may be practicing DB’ing because she was still wearing her rings and the interviewer made a point of it on camera.
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
