Hope, I know just what you mean about your H being a completely different person in front of other people. My H is the same. He's actually told me that one of the reasons he went out drinking every night was because he didn't want to be home around me and things that reminded him of us. I think being home was just too painful for him. When he came home he also had to deal with real emotions about his father's death. When he was with his so-called friends he could just drink and forget.
