Someone I know explained it to me like this: it's depression. When he's talking to me, he lets the true him come out; he takes off the mask and shows how he really feels to me. Around others, the mask goes on, and he pretends all is great in his life, when it actually isn't. He feels comfortable enough with me to show himself to me. Everyone else gets the actor
Hope, I actually recall having a conversation with my c. about this when wah was really depressed. She said that often they can function quite normally at work etc as just going through the motions, but we get to see the real them as apparently they are relaxed with us.
So yes, I think it is true.
I am thinking that ow probably doesn't get to see this side either. When wah was really bad, ie just sitting there, no talk, I couldn't fathom how any woman would walk away from a marriage to be with this shell of a man, but I guess we are the only ones who get to see the shell?
