Thank you so much for the legal advice; I appreciate that very much. I will be keeping it in mind. So far, nothing has been discussed further in this area with H. and I. Fine by me.
He is trying to justify his actions. And convince himself that what he is doing is the right thing. I do think the same thing. I remarked in someone else's thread, he keeps saying "I'm not coming back." I wonder who he's trying to convince, me or him?
i believe that this lessened contact allows me the opportunity to see things a bit more objectively, if not less emotionally. Does that make sense? Certainly does. And I do understand that I will fair better with less contact. I've done SO well by not calling him, Imdi. I really do not call him anymore...let him come to me.
I think when we talk to them too frequently, it stirs everything up inside of us and we can't think straight This was me last fall. We had much more interaction back then, saw each other a couple of times a week. I was quite a mess back then, even worse than I've been lately, if you can imagine that.
If he brings anything up again I will listen but I won't agree to anything; I'll just tell him I need time to think about it, because that's the truth anyway.
Thanks, Imdi. I hope you have a good evening. Off tomorrow?
Most of us really marry only once. First love endures, even unto our dying day. And we never really divorce.
