I agree--much easier said than done...but, it's a practiced art. Detaching without stopping caring. It's taken me a long time to get that through my head...that detaching is actually a form of unconditional love...that lets you let them be, to accept and love. I guess loving is a practiced art too!!
For me, it's a finding the balance between not taking things too seriously (spiraling with the negativity and assuming the worst) and taking the right things seriously, which I neglected in my M. Like being aware of Hs feelings and how things I do/said might affect him, really listening to what he said, etc.
It's not so hard when you think about it and write, but harder when in practice, I agree. Should be simple, eh? Well, we shall see in our journey's!
