I think that if you believe what he is telling you, then you are taking a step in the right direction. Ok, it's not a step....it's huge leap of faith........to give him the benefit of the doubt and I commend you on that.
That being said, I have given my H the benefit of the doubt in certain situations. That does not mean that I put 100% of my faith on him being honest with me. I think it's normal for us to question.
As for the PA, hindsight is always 20/20. When H started his EA with OW, he still acted just like he did every other day. When his PA started I noticed little comments he would make.......like when we'd joke about me trading him in for a newer model, he would normally speak out against it, then it turned into "go ahead". His appetite for sex became insatiable. He would stay up late working downstairs in his office doing marketing for the business....but instead he was on the computer talking with OW. I think that every person acts differently. Some people withdraw completely from sex with their spouse when they have A's. My H is a seasoned liar. He has had years and years of experience and most of the time, I can't tell if he is telling me the truth or not, he can look me straight in the eyes and lie to me without a flinch. So, the fact that you can read your H is a bonus tool for you. Not all of us have that luxury.
It's too bad that your in-laws only focus on the negative that they were once told or shown. But it's great that they have no influence on him. It IS his decision afterall, not theirs.
LOL..shopping at the dollar store. Sometimes it is just those simple little things that pick up our spirits. For me, it's the yard sales in the spring and summer. Just looking for that one thing you didn't know you needed until you saw it.
I used to work in technology before going back to school for Microbiology. When troubleshooting a network or pc issue....we always used the "KISS" it method. (Keep It Simple Stupid) Now, if we can only apply that to our life situations we would all be so much better off wouldn't we?
Enjoy those beers while I enjoy my toasted almonds! If we aren't too hung over, I am sure we will catch up tomorrow! LMAO
~Strong
I'm moving on...at last I can see...life has been patiently waiting for me.
Me-32 WAH-35 DD-11 DS-4 H left 11-03 Piecing- 12/04 WAH again- 03/07 Married 12 years Divorce final May 15, 2007
