Falcon, You've been an extremely patient man thus far. Can you be patient a little while longer? She's finally starting to see the destruction that she's left behind and it's going to be a while longer before she actually wakes up.
I'm glad to see that her eyes are starting to open up and if you can provide her a safe landing place, I do believe in another 6-12 months she'll be landing more and more frequently. Given her comments about things, she still has to learn to accept what she's done and find inner peace.
Hopefully she will seek out therapy and it will help, but she's got some guilt still to deal w/for what she's done before she's fully healed.
Take care of yourself. You've done an excellent job in providing unconditional love to her.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.