Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

Well, H has been calling me a lot today. Wanted to take me and the kids out to dinner. I got him to agree to dinner at home since I really am not up to going anywhere.

He sensed that I was depressed, which I am, and I guess he thought it was because he wasn't here. He said "I think it's healthy for us to be apart right now". I told him that agreed 100%, that's why I asked for the seperation. He was originally only giving me one more night, but maybe he is reconsidering it.

All in all, after the anger from me asking him to leave subsided, he was able to see that it WAS for the best for everyone. He had always fought me on the "time away, time alone" idea because he just didn't get it. Now that he had last night to himself and his thougts, he found a benefit. I hope now that he finally understands why every now and then I like to get away alone.

We (I) shed a lot of tears today out of hurt, anger, confusion. I am really in flight mode right now and have been for a while. Things are rough between me and my mother right now and that doesn't help my situation. We aren't even speaking and she told me to find a new mother. I hate my house with a passion b/c this is where the A happened. I really feel like I need to get the heck out of here.

We had been toying with the possibility of moving to NH. We both have a lot of family there. I am ready to sell this house to the first bidder, pack up and head to NH. I don't care if we have to rent an apartment or house until we find one we like in the area we want. So, if any reading this is selling their home in NH.....let's make a deal!!! LOL

Then I have to wonder if this is because toying with moving there has been going on for so long that I am ready to just do it, or am I asking for trouble? Maybe this IS MLC for me. I know that there is a possibility that this "fresh start" for us could do us no good at all. AM I losing my mind or what????

~SE

[StrongEnough]

Hi everyone.

Becca1975- Thanks so much for your support the other night, I will drop by your thread to leave you a proper thanks though.

H and I went to NH this weekend to look at some properties. We have been looking for almost a year now But, I think we were never really serious about it because of our instability. Well, we were out in the middle of nowhere land way up north. In the mountains, it was beautiful.

H and I managed to have a pleasant weekend. No arguing or hard feelings. Kids drove us both crazy, but hey, that's what they do. There was a certain series of "strange" events on Saturday that caused some stress and tension, but we both said our piece and pushed it aside.(That is until tonight, guess he had more to say and more questions to ask)

Anyhow, we decided to just go for it and we are putting our house on the market. We did find a beautiful house this weekend, but it is bank-owned and I can't make an offer until I sell my house. So, if our house sells and we haven't found one to purchase, we will just rent a house until we find one.

I am very excited to be moving. I have wanted out of my miserable state for a long time, but had a hard time leaving my parents and brother. I have finally decided that if they want to see me or the kids, they have cars and can drive there. It's kind of like a new start. I am a bit nervous about the whole ordeal because H and I are still very unstable in our R.

But, all things considered, it would still be a better life for the kids if we don't make it and get D'd. Atleast I know out financial situation will be better as property values are cheaper in that state then they are in mine. My mortgage payment will be almost 1/3 of what it currently is. Per our original divorce agreement, already granted by the judge just never finalized.......I wouldn't have to worry about the mortgage or utilities.

So, there are pro's and con's to the situation. But, if there is no risk.....there will never be any gain. Hmm...I think I can apply that elsewhere in my twisted little life here.

~SE

[Becca1975]

Sometimes a fresh start is just what is needed

Hope the move goes well, stay in touch!

[StrongEnough]

Sometimes a fresh start is just what is needed

That is very, very true. What about you? Want to buy my house so I can put in an offer on that dream house I found????? LOL.

[Becca1975]

Ha, I wish.

[StrongEnough]

Oh well......can't blame me for trying!!

<pouts> I guess I'll find another house. I mean who needs 5 bedrooms, 3 baths, almost 4,000 sq. feet on 4 acres with a beautiful brook running through their back yard, 2 car garage, cathedral ceilings, 2 fireplaces, stereo system in kitchen with in-wall speakers in every room....please, pardon me while I wipe the tears.......

LOL.......someone feel bad for me and buy my house!! LOL

I hope my pathetic pitch works. I was never a good salesperson.

~SE

[WCW]

Not me! that big house sounds like you'll be way too busy cleaning and then hauling firewood for both of the fireplaces to enjoy the babbling brook. Oh wait, you said beautiful brook. In this state, beautiful brook means mosquitoes, the State Bird. They just don't say that in the real estate ads. Yes ma'am! I know that for a fact. I have a babbling brook running thru one of the 20 acre sections, and a pond on a different section. Definitely mosquitoes!

[StrongEnough]

WCW...you know, I was so taken with the beauty of the woods and the brook, I never stopped to think about mosquitos. I only thought of the wild animals we may get to see drinking from the brook. It was in the real estate as a babbling brook.

Yeah, I'd spend a lot of cleaning but I do that already anyway.

You are lucky to have 20 acres. I would love to have that kind of land. In my state, not many people have acreage. There are only two or three towns that are considered the sitck out here and that's where I grew up.

As for the wood.....and the fireplaces......well, I'm all about plaid. I would be the lumberjack!! LOL

Well, it's nice to dream anyway.

~SE

[WCW]

Um, I have more than 20 acres. Years ago, which seems like yesterday, I started with two adjoining pieces, 2 acres and 1 acre. Then I bought 17 more surrounding me. Then I bought another adjoining 20. Most recently the big addition was another 114 adjoining acreage. I have a problem with neighbors being too close, and buy what comes available if at all possible to keep people out of my yard. I don't sound very neighborly, do I! The one thing that isn't being made anymore is land and property, I figure it's never a bad investment. The last 114 we bought has increased by about 25% in just a few years time. It has the pond and wooded area, a nice place to find some peaceful times. Sigh...

Good luck with your house search and selling. It can be pretty exciting!

[StrongEnough]

Wow.......that's a lot of land!!I would be in heaven with all that land. I guess I am not the friendly neighbor either.....I like my privacy and I can't stand noise from other people. Luckily, I live in a very quiet neighborhood heavily populated with elderly folk. They are quiet except for the occasional rescue/ fire team call.

Thanks for the luck. It is exciting to be looking at houses. I have owned this house I live in for 9 years now. The entire thing has been remodeled, but still I am sick of it. Not to mention the haunting memories from years past.

So, this new year is out with the old and in with the new. New start, new life, new me........all good.

~SE