Where's my pot of gold?

[StrongEnough]

HI everyone. Thanks for the support but I needed a break from this board and from life.

My situation has quickly spiraled out of control. There have been a lot of fights, arguing and screaming and scared children. H moved into the basement. I have other family issues going on as well outside of the house.

Well, everything came to a head today. I told H that for now, I think it's best we seperate and alleviate the stress, tension and anxiety in the house. H fought the idea, blamed me for everything but eventually left taking only his cigarettes and his pills.(anti-depressants)

Right now, I am lost and confused. I won't dredge up all the nasty details, but things here have been terrible lately and my H's pateince was wearing thin with me and the kids. My D10 actually agreed with me that she felt it best we live apart for now, and even though she is sad, she didn't like what was going on in the house. She told me she had never seen her dad be so mean to me and that wasn't the dad she knew......and that she was afraid of him. I won't risk my children's well-being and mental health. H needs to get a grip on his anxiety, anger and control issues. Until then, we will only stay in the same vicious circle of behavior. So, (C4H) I think I have figured out how to break that circle. The rest is in God's hands now. I hope he keeps H safe.

I did tell H that I would like us both to continue with IC and then incorporate MC. He didn't seem interested in that, only on placing blame. So, I am backing off and letting him calm down.....then we can discuss the seperation rules and so forth.

Looks like I shouldn't be posting in piecing anymore. Actually, I don't know if there even a forum for my situation here.

~SE