But then in this situation that we are all in (and I include myself) what is reality? Its not to say its my fault or their fault, or that they did this because i did that because they did something else. I am finding it is a vicious cycle, a dog chasing his tail.Break the cycle become you and they may or may not follow because you can change or control YOU but not them.
Nothing is what I thought it was. It is all a matter of perception as to what happened or how. That is the point.
If he wants to but you don't then its in your court plain and simple. If he is looking for an out or bluffing call him on it. If he thinks it is not healthy for you, maybe it isn't but then what needs to be done within the relationship to make it healthy for BOTH of you? It was before and it can be again. If he wants in he needs to bring some poker chips.
Don't act on instinct, think it through from all perspectives (I'm very analytical) if you need to, then act...
None of this is easy, which is why we come here for support.
